While the LGBTQIA+ community can feel more inclusive and supportive than the general public, many individuals still feel insecure about personal belonging and will question, “Am I queer enough?” or “Am I Trans enough?” I am passionate and proud to help people explore the fluidity of their sexuality and/or gender. My therapeutic space is welcoming, safe, and affirming for all identities and intersectionality. I promote a non-judgmental, positive and progressive attitude towards human sexuality. I also fully recognize the privilege of serving the Trans and gender expansive community as a cis provider. I continually seek education to better inform my care and self-awareness and am experienced in letter-writing for surgeries.
Kink & BDSM
Let’s talk about kinks! Let’s explore those long-held fantasies to help you determine whether it’s an experience you want to pursue in real life, are ready to share with a partner, or prefer to continue building through imagination. Let’s process the emotional and psychological impacts of coming out of Sub Space or re-entering your day job after Top Drop. Let’s share in the excitement of a recent beautiful Shibari tie or a newly purchased flogger. Therapy sessions are professional, safe, and non-judgmental where long-time BDSM practitioners, or those still curious or preparing for their first dungeon visit, are welcome to share all the thrilling—possibly intimidating—details of desired scenes and/or relational dynamics.
Polyamory & Ethical Non-Monogamy
People open up their relationships to pursue more connection, whether it be platonic, romantic, sexual (or all of the above!). Yet, living in a society that expects and prioritizes monogamy can often make this pursuit or practice feel isolating and insecure. Navigating Ethical Non-Monogamy, Swinging, or Polyamory further pushes you to better understand your intimate needs, personal boundaries, emotional bandwidth, communication style, and what it means to have enthusiastic consent. Whether you’re newly considering the Lifestyle or have an established polycule, I specialize in helping individuals—partnered or solo—work through this challenging process.
Infidelity & Affairs
In media, politics, entertainment or daily disagreements, US culture emphasizes narratives of Good vs. Bad, Right vs. Wrong. This is especially true when it comes to Infidelity. People who cheat are villainized and betrayed partners are pressured to leave (or stay). As Esther Perel emphasizes, “We need a new conversation and a new approach (to infidelity) that is more caring and compassionate.” Partner betrayal is devastating for all parties involved and entails a healing process that not only requires re-building trust with loved ones but also with one’s self. I am experienced with helping people find resolution and personal growth from emotional and/or sexual affairs.
Just being human can be incredibly difficult. We are tasked with constantly trying to name and describe our thoughts, feelings, physical sensations... all while trying to navigate and maintain connection and relationships with other complex beings. Life is often happening faster than we can process, leaving us vulnerable to escalating anxiety and stress or deepening depression and apathy (or both!). I will offer invitations for you to slow down, reflect and reset. We’ll work together to explore your moods, evaluate go-to coping skills and update them in ways to serve your needs more effectively.
Substances are reliable, available, non-judgmental. While using can be one of our most effective coping skills, it can serve us in ways to disconnect us from priorities, loved ones, and even our sense of self. As a Licensed Addictions Counselor, I have extensive knowledge on the drugs people use and insight regarding how we all choose. I am also committed to challenging dominant cultural assumptions that criticize and stigmatize people who use drugs, opting for a focus on personal agency and choice instead. Shaming and blaming only perpetuates problems; let’s stop the cycle through mindfulness and compassion.
Create meaningful life story through intentional, compassionate care at Living Story Therapy, PLLC
“We live our lives through the stories we tell about ourselves, and others tell about us.” Problems enter our lives when others—a partner, family, friends, culture, society—try to edit or tell our stories for us. My intention in the counseling room is to help you explore your personal narrative(s) to create new meaning of the past, identify desired direction for your future, and offer support and empowerment in making present changes. I describe my style as active, creative, and highly collaborative. You are the author of your own story... it will be my privilege to explore, learn, and grow with you.
I was trained in Harm Reduction while serving clients referred through a syringe exchange program and STI testing sites. Over the years, I have come to learn that, beyond evaluating one’s substance use or promoting sexual health, Harm Reduction is a compassionate and effective therapeutic approach for modifying any type of problematic behavior. You will determine the changes to be made; my role will be to respect your autonomy, learn how a substance or behavior is or is not serving you effectively, and prioritize risk reduction and personal safety.